I have been trying various dating sites for a long time, but I often find that girls either don't respond or the conversation quickly loses interest. Has anyone had a similar experience and can advise on how to write the first message correctly so that it attracts the girl's attention and does not look like a standard template? Perhaps there are specific techniques or topics that work best?
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I’ve had the same issue, and what helped me most was moving away from generic openers. Instead of compliments that sound copied, I try to comment on something specific from her profile and turn it into a light question. It shows real interest and gives the conversation a direction right away.
I also keep the first message short and relaxed—no pressure, no long stories. Sometimes I even practice phrasing and tone beforehand, similar to how people use a female chat bot to test different conversation styles and see what feels natural. For me, curiosity, simplicity, and being genuinely attentive work much better than any “perfect” template.